Strangely I wasn’t able to sleep very well for the last two nights in a row. Yesterday, as I was laying down in bed at around 2am, I decided to open my eyes for a while. I wanted to fixate one point in the room and focus all my attention on that point in order to keep my brain from mind-wandering too much. Hopefully that would help me to fall asleep faster, I thought.
That point turned out to be the dim green light emitted by the smoke detector just 2 meters above my head. Then, as I kept looking at it, suddenly I asked myself: “have I actually given myself green light to sleep?”.
I quickly realized that this is an important question in all aspects of life, so I started shooting out a whole series of questions in my head.
Have I given myself green light to be self-employed and not have access to a steady pay check?
Have I given myself green light to take more responsibility in this project?
Have I given myself green light to be successful?
Once I started shooting out all these types of questions, I also noticed that they can be quite useful in many aspects of being an expatriate. Here are just a few questions to get you thinking:
Have I given myself green light to let go of my beliefs that don’t suit my environment anymore?
Have I given myself green light to let go of an identity that is purely defined by my country of origin?
Have I given myself green light to adapt the behaviours of the local people?
Have I given myself green light to embrace the painful process of letting go of some old values and adapting new one’s?
There could be many more of these types of questions that you could ask yourself. But most importantly: what goals do you have for which you haven’t given yourself permission to pursue them just yet?